Couple Sends Out “You’re Not Invited” Cards to Family Members and Assigns Tasks to Invited Guests

Shortly-to-be-married pair left a family member surprised after revealing their choice to dispatch “you are not invited cards” to the individuals who didn’t make the cut on their wedding guest list. In Reddit’s famous forum, Wedding Shaming, one relative shared their reaction to the unexpected news, explaining that the pair is planning a “small garden wedding” at a location five hours away from where everyone lives and has opted to keep the guest list small due to their tight budget. Because of their wedding size, the bride and groom were compelled to make reductions from their guest list. So, instead of leaving the uninvited group without a word, the pair dispatched cards.

“I just discovered that the wedding pair are sending ‘cards’ to people that are not invited that they are getting married soon and ‘you are in our hearts on this special day’ BEFORE the wedding,” the Redditor wrote.

“Their rationale is for the sake of ‘curiosity and thinking of them.’ But what I don’t comprehend is why dispatch this BEFORE the wedding. It would make more sense AFTER and dispatch it out to them,” they appended.

Wedding guest setting up for the Wedding & You are not Invited Cards
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Additionally, the Redditor stated that guests invited to the wedding would be allocated tasks after the ceremony. Unless you’re in the bridal party, you’ll need to assist in setting up for the reception. “Once the ceremony is done the wedding party will depart to take photos while the GUESTS set up the tables for the reception,” the relative explained. “I was like what??? They never REQUESTED if people are willing to do that as if they just dictated people what to do,” they inscribed.

“Where is the respect, etiquette and morals. They stated that financially they cant employ people to set up but they had nearly 2 years to save and what did they do to save? They went travelling instead of saving for the wedding,” the relative said. They also inscribed that bride and groom allocated their parents errands to take care of on their big day. Additionally, the bride is organizing to invite friends to her bridal shower who won’t be invited to her wedding. “Wish me luck on this upcoming wedding,” the original poster finished.

The Reddit post was shared a few days back. Since then, it has amassed more than hundreds of upvotes. In the comments section, users concurred that the couple’s actions are unappealing.

“What they are planning sucks and is rude and that’s reason to not attend. If you do want to go to see family and to see a possible train wreck, make it clear that you aren’t going to help set anything up,” wrote one user. “I am always looking for excuses not to go to a wedding, and this one would be a jackpot,” commented another.

“I guess the wedding will be smaller than expected because I would definitely send my regrets. Wow – just unbelievable,” expressed a third user. “Depending on if you would like to see the family and are otherwise healthy. Go and setup a few tables. Later when they ask about what happened to their gift, say you thought that was the gift,” suggested another.

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